This week I had the chance to hang out with John Trent, author of “The Blessing” and Mark Holeman author of “Building Faith at Home.” We talked a lot about leading churches to help parents equip their children spiritually. As I listened to these men speak from their places of expertise both as dads and as counselor and pastor, I heard a simple appeal. We need to bless our kids everyday.
Our kids grow up in a world of criticism. How great would it be for us to bless them every day? I will just be a little transparent. Sometimes I wonder if I am 70% criticism as a parent and only 30% blessing. Here is what I mean. It is really easy to criticize. You left your shoes out. Your voice is too loud. Stop hitting your sister. Don’t use my toothbrush…you get the idea.
What if I blessed at least as much or more than I criticize? Would my kids grow up to be much different kids? Let’s make a pact, you and me. Let’s bless our kids. Here is one way you could be really intentional about it.
Tuck your kids in bed whether they are 2 or 17. Pray with them at the end of the day before they sleep and then take a bold step. Bless them. Put your hands on their head or their back or hold their hands and bless them. Use Scripture as the model for blessing. Use the same verse for a month if you want. Indirectly both you and your son our daughter will memorize Scripture. Here’s a familiar first blessing:
“May the Lord bless you and keep you. May the Lord make His face shine on you and be gracious unto you. May the Lord lift up His countenance upon you and give you peace. Amen! -Numbers 6:24-26.
Bless them with the same verse on their way out the door in the morning. Hug them as you bless them and tell them you love them.
We have built blessing into the path of Legacy Milestones at Kingsland. Milestone 6, High School Graduation, affords parents the opportunity to develop a written blessing for their graduating son our daughter. But don’t wait until Milestone 6. Bless them every day.
Visit the Legacy Resource Center and get two practical tools to help you bless your children. My favorite, are the Blessings Cards developed by John Piper. These cards are a collection of Biblical blessings that you can use at night to bless your children. The idea is to make this so easy that we can all bless. Read the blessing straight off the card as you pray for your son or daughter. A second great resource is the book, “The Blessing” by John Trent. The book is a life changer. Visit the Legacy Resource Center this Sunday and ask for Blessing Cards or the book “The Blessing.” Begin the process of blessing your kids every day!